Ninang (Godmother)

(A Tribute to Andrea Pilar Burgos)

          Kumusta ka” (“How are you?”)… Was always her greeting to me whenever I saw her.

         But the thing is I always suspected she, actually, knew everything about me, long before I start explaining things.  She was close to Mamu (who is my Mom since they were cousins).  And Mamu undoubtedly always spilled the bean first (imagine my eyes rolling now).   Nonetheless, even if she knew, Ninang would still ask “Kumusta ka?” – giving me that “special space” to be myself.

         In my lifetime, I had been sheltered and guided by strong women.  Ninang was one of them.

        She was not the typical God-mother most fairy tale books talk about.  But she was the kind who was REAL.  Present and felt on Christmases, New Years, Birthdays, name it!  I But I experienced Ninang more during the times my family “needed family”.   And these were my growing up memories of her!  She comforted Mom and offered help, especially if it concerned me.  She took me in her house during my College days.  She helped me land into my first real job as well (at the Bureau of Internal Revenue) so I can start charting my career path.  I saw and felt her presence in most major events of my life… especially, when guidance mattered most. 

        Her words “Kumusta ka” marked strong impact on me, as a woman!  Those are words of assurance.  Those are emblems of warmth & kindness from someone who is just waiting for you to open up and seek out.  It is very subtle way of saying, “I’m here; I’m part of your life; You’re never alone”.  How blessed I had been!

         Few days ago, Ninang reunited with my other beloved departed in Heaven.  But her memories will always remind me of what she always stood for… “To be significantly present in someone else’s life”.  Hence, I will never forget, “I have a Ninang … somewhere and always!”

         So, no farewells.  Until that time when you ask me again “Kumusta ka?”.  I will make sure you will be PROUD of what I will fill you in.

         Rest now, Ninang … and be at PEACE  🙏

Your Inaak (Godchild),

Tatan